Saturday, 2 September 2017

Sexual Polarity: The Secret Sauce to Passionate Sex

Did you know that the secret sauce to hot, passionate sex is sexual polarity in the relationship? It is absolutely true that opposites attract each other.
The sexual charge that shows up when we’re having passionate sex occurs because of the tension between masculine and feminine energy.  When there is a lot of sexual polarity with your partner, the charge is strong.
When that doesn’t exist, sex might be nice and sweet but lacks the passion that you both really want.
Think about sexual polarity like a battery:  positive to negative conducts a charge; positive to positive or negative to negative does not.
Few have explained this concept better than David Deida in his internationally renowned book, The Way of the Superior Man.

Definition of Sexual Polarity

Sexual attraction is based upon sexual polarity, which is the force of passion that arcs between the masculine and feminine poles thus creating the flow of sexual feeling.  If you want real passion you need a ravisher and a ravishee, otherwise you just have two buddies who rub genitals in bed…..The love may still be strong, the friendship may still be strong, but the sexual polarity fades unless in moments of intimacy one partner is willing to play the masculine pole and one partner is willing to play the feminine. 
In heterosexual couples this does not necessarily mean that all of the masculine energy must be held by the man and all of the feminine energy must be held by the woman.  In fact, you have both feminine and masculine energy inside of you although to what degree you’ve cultivated that energy varies from person to person.
There are men who hold a lot of masculine energy (Bruce Willis) who haven’t cultivated their softer, feminine side.  There are also men, (Canada’s Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, President Obama) who have cultivated more of their feminine side.
Similarly, there are women (Rachel Maddow, Hillary Clinton) who hold strong male energy and others (Princess Di, Marilyn Monroe) who have not cultivated it as much.
When I work with couples to help them find their sexual polarity, I am often asked if this means that the man has to be the dominant masculine energy.  The answer is definitely not as long as one of the partners plays the masculine energy role.
There are many happy couples where the women plays the dominant role to a more submissive partner.   Also, you can easily switch back and forth between playing the masculine and feminine energy roles.
As long as you have sexual polarity within your relationship, you will have juicer and more passionate sex.


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